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I’ll be very direct and practical. You cannot control betrayal, but you can make it extremely hard for the wrong person to reach you again. Do exactly this, in this order: 1. Make this rule permanent (non-negotiable) Anyone who disrespects you once does not get access again. No explaining. No second chances. No “maybe he was stressed”. Disrespect is a preview, not a mistake. 2. Stop trusting words. Only trust patterns. From now on: Promises = meaningless Apologies = meaningless Sweet talk = meaningless You trust only repeated behavior over time. If actions and words don’t match → leave silently. 3. Never attach fast (this is key) Attachment too early blinds even intelligent people. New rule: No emotional dependence for minimum 3–6 months No sharing deep pain early No “he’s my everything” mindset You observe first. Feel later. 4. Watch how they handle anger This is the biggest predictor of betrayal/abuse. 🚩 Leave immediately if they: Raise voice to control Show threatening body languag...

Narcissistic toxic parents almost never realize their mistakes or feel true remorse for their behavior. The structure of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and strong narcissistic traits prevents the introspection and empathy required for genuine regret. Instead, their behavior often worsens with age, leading to a future of bitterness, loneliness, and further victim-blaming.  Why narcissistic parents rarely realize their mistakes Built-in defense mechanisms: People with NPD have deeply ingrained psychological defenses that protect their fragile ego from shame and blame. Admitting fault or weakness would cause immense internal distress, which they avoid at all costs. To them, it feels like an ego death. Inability to feel guilt: Narcissists may experience shame when they lose social status or a "supply" of attention, but they do not experience genuine guilt over hurting others. Because they lack emotional empathy, they cannot truly understand or internalize the pain they h...

There are a lots of tears behind writing this ✍️  I write this in funny way cus I feel deja vu.  Umm depression, then after few years of chronic depression I jumped off a 6 story building in 2021. My bad , I didn't know if anyone could still be alive . But I think I'm dead soul cus I'm not living . I have never lived. I have only been surviving, surviving at the edge , crying , begging, begging for help in my mind.  I just can't live a normal life tho my life might look normal 🙃  B12 , vitamin b12 , protein I want it . But my vegetarian family won't gimme that . I'm broke financially. 💔  I have damaged skin & bones now . After all its my fault cus I damaged myself . This guilt I shall carry as My mother reminds me about it daily .  Today I was supposed to go to infosys office but I didn't as it was 1+ hours far . Taxi fares would cost me about 800 to 1000 + . I'm not feeling fine so I need rest , i told my mom I need some meet shall I order it cook...

Words really molds the chemical ecosystem in our minds , at least it does so in my body .  Life shall be more asthetic, pleasant, peaceful, beautiful, easy , loving , enjoyable, tho its really not easy to live a life especially the one that I imagine in my mind .  A life which I'll soon be living ✨️ I'm counting the days I really mean it .  It's 18 June 2025 today . I believe I'll be there some day in that peaceful life I crave .  Hold on  Be practical Imagine how beneficial it is for you to control your reactions , anger and words .  I'm sure you get happy when you get appreciated by someone . It makes you believe you are worth that appreciation and that is your reality.   Your reality is what you believe. But your reality is not what people assume about you .  Yes , you read it right . You are what you believe you are , come'n you can't be lame believing people around you even if it's your mother , sibling , friend , foe or anyt...

There was this one guy who has 6k+ followers on LinkedIn. Co-founder at connect verse - web3 community at Bangalore.   Texted me on April 10 2025 . Started conversations after I first replied him. We use to have really long conversations until midnight slowly after we Started talking .  He asked really intimate questions and naive me blindly replied . He told me he feels connected to me . He told me I've become emotionally naked to him . Honestly to me it never mattered as I thought he's a stranger so I don't have to care . But the month long conversation . Morning noon night , oh yea he asked me out to be his study buddy and I said yes . But it never went well .  It's 26 of May and I guess I never got to know him. I only revealed myself. Well none of that matters . I  do it most times . I encounter wrong relations. Following are the terms that describe me : "Convenience" — as in “a convenience to others”. "A placeholder" – someone people only keep a...

Been through some Bad shit ?  Sad bitch or Savage  What do you wanna be ?  Wanna seek respect ?  Don't share your sad journey. Your  destination will speak for you .  Wanna be strong in a relationship, Don't share your information, journey, wounds , weakness .  In the end , nothing really matters . Nobody's gonna remember your pain , suffering.  Nah you not gonna highlight that shit ,  Why ? You need sympathy ?  Go ahead do it if it makes you feel better .  But how is it gonna do you any good . Receiving pity from people is no good to a powerful person.   The only difference between a strong and powerful is that all those who are suffering are strong but the ones who get outta that loop are the powerful.  If someone is making you feel like shit and if you felt it . It's cus you let them , there's something called emotional shield 🛡  Don't respect and believe that person's judgment.  Keep yourself warm and c...